Never been angry, not as a kid, not as an adult, but slowly getting to know it. Well maybe not so slowly – it’s actually getting out of control, so I thought I’d look into it – as a tourist, and as with all tourists, lets start with WikiPedia…
Anger is an automatic response to ill treatment. It is the way a person indicates he or she will not tolerate certain types of behaviour. It is a feedback mechanism in which an unpleasant stimulus is met with an unpleasant response.
Maybe, but it sure doesn’t feel like that :) Seems according to what I can find online to be
related to situations such as being offended, wronged or denied, and tend to lead to retaliation of some form. An angry person may lose his/her objectivity, empathy, prudence or thoughtfulness and may cause harm to others. There is a sharp distinction between anger and aggression (verbal or physical, direct or indirect) even though they mutually influence each other. While anger can activate aggression or increase its probability or intensity, it is neither a necessary nor a sufficient condition for aggression.
Troublesome, is the idea that it grows, rather than dissipates if you practice it. I remember a time when people would say that you should not bottle it in, while recently I’ve heard that studies have shown that anger management techniques that encourage the expression of anger physically or verbally in controlled settings make matters worse – encouraging a cycle of positive feedback. As a newbie to this whole anger thing, this seems right – as far as I can tell.